I have shared this story numerous times in various ways, but I believe it's best to write it down, just in case the temptation to modify it arises in the future. It's a story too precious to be altered, and I want the future me to share the same enchanting tale with our child. Yes, my love, it's our story. It all began in a humble house, some referred to as an office, where I opened a door and there she was, turning her chair. In that moment, something extraordinary passed between us. Call it chemistry, if you will. Not too late, I found out it’s too late. She was married, and her boundaries were crystal clear. I respected that, and together we agreed that being friends would be more than enough. Weeks turned into months, and we quickly became best friends. Same with the entire marke… Read More
Less plans, less to worry about
I still tend to plan everything in advance, weeks, months, or even years ahead. I don't know why, but I can't stop doing that. It happens all the time, even for personal projects, like travels. Now, in my attempt to cure this disease, I created this new personal project: Every once in a while, I challenge myself to be spontaneous with my travels. I choose a destination that's no more than a 2-hour flight away, under £50 return and it has to be a place I've never been to before. This is how I found myself in Toulouse in January. For this trip, I decided to let go of all my usual planning rituals. No research, no endless YouTube watching, no Google Maps plotting, nothing. When I got back home I tried to see what went wrong with zero planing and a lot of spontaneity. Well, noting got wr… Read More
How to DAD
Spoiler alert: It's not easy. If you are in your 20s and you are thinking of having a child, there are no rational reasons to have one. The word rational is very important in that sentence. Keep that in mind. A child means to spend a lot of time with him/her. Takes you a lot of energy, time and money. A child can change your meaning, your path in life. You’ve got almost no rational reasons to have one, but everything changes when you become a dad. It’s been one year since everything changed for me and all the rational reasons vanished. Since I became a dad, a new world opened in front of me. When you step into a new world, you have to learn a lot, of course. I’m still learning, but I thought it’s time to start sharing some learnings. I think the most important gift y… Read More
The Cake Lesson
I’m going to tell you a short story that was, actually, one of the biggest life lessons I have received in my entire life. I fly to Singapore for my birthday. I love Singapore. It’s one of the best places in the world. I stay here just for a few days and I think to myself to do something special for my birthday. What can be better than booking a night at Marina Bay Sands Hotel and have acces to their infinity pool. So I’ve done that. Booked just one night, ready for an amazing experience. I arrive in Singapore. I checkin for the first couple of nights at a regular hotel. The guy from the reception realized that it’s gonna be my birthday soon. He says Happy Birthday to me and teased me with some special gift. We go do our stuff, explore the city, have different activities and, for… Read More
Never stop learning
When I was a kid, I always tried to postpone, skip or finish school as fast as I could. I had more important things to do. At least, this is what I thought so at that age. Now, many years later, I realise how fool I was. Why? Because now I don't have so much time to do that, the learning process is different, it takes more time and energy to pick up stuff. And guess what. The eager to learn is higher now. I’m 36 years old and I got back to school. Shifting career, getting into the design at this age could be a brave move for most of us. It’s not easy, but I think it’s better than being stuck into something that you don’t love doing anymore. I try to blend school in my adult life, I try to learn how to learn again. Note to my younger self: Learn something new every day. … Read More
Time to slow down
We are always in a rush. We’re always busy. We have to do something at any giving time of the day. We have to? Or we decide to? I’ve just started an experiment: I spend one to two hours per day in the middle of nature, without doing anything, in particular. I just sit there and enjoy the silence. No rush, no worries. It’s been a week and I already feel great. I hope this will last forever.
Live in the present moment
We all thinking at the past. We all try to plan the future. But what we actually need to do is to live in the present. It's hard. It's maybe the hardest thing a human being can do. There is a study where people were given the option of either sitting in a room with their own thoughts for 15 minutes, or giving themselves an electric shock. 60% of men and 30% of women gave themselves a shock, rather than spend 15 minutes alone with their own head. So yeah, it's hard. Almost impossible. That's my new mission starting from today: to live in the present moment as much as possible.
Tesla
I had this wallpaper on my laptop for years. This is the amount of time I also had to wait for this dream to become true. 3.5 years from the moment I put the order and 7 years since I've started to dream, to be more specific. I've started following Tesla in 2012, when the Model S was launched. Doing my research about Tesla, I thought the car is too good to be true, too advanced to get into the market, too early to be understood and appreciated by masses. Apparently, that wasn't the case and Elon Musk's Master Plan got implemented as he planned it. Years are passing on, I get more and more interested in Tesla. I start dreaming, even if, at that time, it seemed to be impossible for me to imagine myself behind a "T" steering wheel. 31st of March, 2016. I'm in London, I make some decent… Read More
Vipassana Experience
The picture on the top is not just a picture of the sky. It's a picture of the sky I was staring for hours after I got out from a Vipassana retreat. OK, what is Vipassana, you may ask. It's a retreat than can last from days to months, where you are totally disconnected from the world: you don't have access to internet, books, radio, tv, you are not allowed to speak to each other and you meditate about 12 hours/day. It's a huge challenge. First, you ask yourself why are you there. Why you decided to wipe out some days from your life and do absolutely nothing. After a few days, you start thinking at your past. A few days later, you start to plan your future. Your mind goes crazy. Second week, when your mind had enough of thinking, planning, wondering, you finally start relaxing. A… Read More
Is it too far or too close?
Too far from what? Too close to what? When I moved out of London, I got this question so often, that I had to memorize the answer and say it over and over again: You moved to The Cotswolds? Isn't it too far away? Too far away? I ask back. What do you mean by too far away? It could be too far from your world, your own bubble, but maybe it's closer to mine. We tend to create our own bubbles and everything that is different could be wrong. I don't think there's right or wrong. Just different. When you live in London you can be tricked and believe that's London and the rest of the world. London is an amazing city, full of opportunities, nice venues, events, great people, amazing architecture, but it's not the centre of the world. It's just another city. Or bubble. Since I moved to T… Read More